Sunday, January 15, 2012

Can Your Family Be Saved?

According to, the divorce rate is right around 50% and in Christian families,it is between 40 and 50%; 41% for first time marriages. The pressures within a family are great and the preparation and the mindset going into marriage so unreal and so romanticized by society that it's a wonder that percentage is not higher. I often wonder what God is going to do with things like divorce and remarriage when we appear before Him at the Judgment Seat of Christ. What started my wondering about this is a book I read by Joseph Herrin, the author of the Parablesblog and owner of the web site. I refer you specifically to his book entitled The Marriage Covenant if you, too, would like to wonder about this.

With that being said, I believe the Lord gave me a word to share with someone out there; a family; a family in pain. A family to whom the word conflict is not unknown. A family who gets up fighting, eats dinner fighting and goes to bed fighting. This is a Christian family, or maybe not - maybe only a portion of the family is Christian. It's a family with an older child - not a young child - perhaps a teenager or a tweenager.

The family feels hopeless and in agony. It gets to the point where none of them want to go home and face it all again but where else can they go? Home is supposed to be a haven; a place of love and acceptance, but it's gotten so out of hand that now they are trying to hurt each other on purpose. "I'll show you; you do that to me, and I'll do this to you."


If the above description fits your family, your house is divided and is in line for imminent destruction if something doesn't change and change fast.

The word that I believe the Lord gave me for you today is this:
Ephesians 6:1 Children obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 6:2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise); 6:3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
You don't know what body aches and pains or heartaches and pains your parents might be going through. Life as an adult with all the responsibilities that go with it is not easy and the world expects success, wealth, beauty, aggression and ambition. Look at them through eyes of compassion and love. The world isn't all about you and your problems. Try thinking about what they may be dealing with: how to pay their bills, job loss or insecurity, their health, maybe one of them has an addiction to something you don't know about, maybe one of them has done something they are not proud of, maybe a special friend or family member is dying - you just don't know what they're dealing with, so give them a break. Show them some love and kindness and compassion - and obedience and respect.

And for you, parents: Ephesians 6: 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

You don't know what your child has been through today away from you. Look at them through the eyes of love and compassion. The world is different today than it was when you were young, and you have no idea what kind of pain your child may have been assaulted with today, and if your child is in the throes of puberty, then everything is multiplied 10x. What if you knew your child had been taunted, teased and made fun of by other kids today, would you tread more gently with him or her? What if you knew your child had failed a very important test today and is failing the class and may be held back, would you take back those unkind words? What if you knew your son had been cut from the team and told to go take a ballet lesson instead, would you act differently, and what if your daughter had been called a slut or some other equally insulting name, would you show her some love and kindness instead of berating her because she didn't get her room cleaned? You just don't know and unfortunately, our children don't tell us everything.

Your family can be salvaged with determination, love and dependence on God. First, everytime you look at your parent, mate, child: pray for them; pray for God's best to be given to them. Do you know what God's best is? It's His son, Jesus Christ and His Holy Spirit. Pray it every day; pray it every hour. Ask God to help you look at them through His eyes, with love and compassion. Count to ten before answering anything that could possibly lead to a confrontation. Realize your part in the equation - children = obedience, honor and love for parents; parents = love, nurturing, teaching your child about God and His desire to know them and set them free from a life of sin and to give them a hope and a purpose. Determine to live your part in the equation without exception and in complete dependence on the Lord for strength and wisdom.
You CAN do it with His help and IF you really want to. Is this His word for you today?


  1. Wonderful post. I pray today His word will be for many today.


  2. Loving and sound biblical inspired thoughts!

    My thoughts to add,
    Keep open the lines of communication and take down the roadblocks that hamper it. Disconnect from distracting pursuits when together to allow the quiet spaces necessary to know each other. :)

  3. I meant to also say, yes, this post is for me and every family! Thank you for inspiring me. I am linking to this post with a few thoughts you've got me to pondering.